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Monday 29 October 2012

PRIMMY'S CORNER - WHAT HAVE I DONE?

What have I done I ask myself every day did I unknowingly turn my daughter against our country Nigeria?
It all started early this year when I was making my daughters hair in the living room and I asked her to change the channel to an African channel you could see the shock on her face, because I don’t allow my kids to watch Nollywood movies (Home videos) but she did anyway and Mercy Johnson came on I really can’t remember the name of the movie now all I and my daughter remember was that she was being maltreated terrible in the movie and for like 30mins she was going through one form of humiliation and maltreatment  or the other. My daughter couldn't understand it all when she couldn't take it anymore she turned to me with confusion written all over her face and went mommy why are they beating and treating her this way I responded by saying because she is a maid and she was like what is a maid I explained what a maid in Nigeria is and like every Nigerian mum told her if you don’t pay attention to you studies that is what you will end up like and she promised me that she was going to pay attention to her studies and ended with I hate Nigeria they are so mean and  in my head I was like whatever I have made an impact in your life today education is key to a successful life shikina LOl. For more click on read more


Then the almighty Aluu 4 incident happened and I used the photo of the Aluu 4 of blessed memories as my phone wall paper when my daughter saw it the following conversation ensued 
Yoma: Mummy are they your nephews 
Me: No they are the Aluu 4
Yoma: Are they actors?
Me: No they were killed recently by a community in Nigeria called Aluu
Yoma: Oh my God that is terrible what did they do?
Me:  They did nothing
Yoma: That is why I said I hate Nigeria they are so mean

I still didn’t see anything wrong with her response until few days ago.We went to the hospital to see a consultant being her first time in the hospital the receptionist said we had to register her as a new patient since it’s her first time in the hospital ko si wahala she directed us on where to go, as they were filling out the forms online the lady asked me her nationality I said Nigerian my daughter looked at me and said with all seriousness I am not Nigerian I am Irish, I was stunned and I tried explaining to her that we are Nigerians and Ireland is her birth country she vehemently refused, she turned to the lady in a very calm way that says I am trying to be respectful here I am IRISH the lady turnd to me and asked if she was entitled to dual citizenship  I said yes she now turned to my daughter and said you are so Irish I just put that down and my daughter turned to me with a smile that says I told you so, that was when it dawned on me that my innocent response to her question has affected her negatively. 
I know she is still growing, she is just 8 years old how do I reverse this, is there any programme out there that can help? I am one of these parents who explain things to their kids (Not everything though, only things I feel are harmless for their age) but this has shown me that most kids are impressionable. I am not happy she doesn’t like Nigerian; I tried to find out if she still dislikes Naija today  and she gave be a resounding YES
What do I do now?  Any ideas people

26 comments:

  1. she will out grow it primmy just tell her all the sweet memories of your childhood that will do the trick babes

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  2. awwwww she must be a sensitive little girl,full of empathy bless her

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  3. Prim prim prim. She is Irish Shikena! Even me, I wish I could conviniently say I'm Canadian or American or even Ghanian. I hv 4 lovely kids and wish above all there were sometin else and not Nigerian ojare

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  4. take her on holidays to nigeria...my sons keep telling their teachers that nigeria is better than ireland and their grandpa's house is bigger than the school...and stop telling her bad stories and KEEP her away from nollywood...you're not just meant to protect your kids from harm but from harmful stories such as those you tell her about your homeland. CHIKENA...a word should be enough for the wise!

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    1. God bless you my brother/sister only few ppl like u r bold enough to be truthful.only yesterday i was telling my friend the POD's Desk is only full of gory stories.when u go to simply glamorous or tricexclusive, its positive its fun and i actually look forward to their next posts but here its about chopping off someone's head, death or accident or something diabolic.if the stories POD feeds us are what she feeds her kids, then not only would she/they hate nigeria but have nightmares.

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    2. i thought i was the only one who noticed.

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    3. then vote YES at the children's referendum to save her kids from her!

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    4. Edel you must be stupid to make such a comment are you sure you read the post, anon 06:08 simplyglamorous is a bloody fashion blog so pack well

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    5. bloody fashion blog! una weldone oh!

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  5. Simple Primi, DON'T let your kids watch 'Home-Videos'-Nigerian movies; there will be a seious culture-conflict playing in their minds- 8yrs old primi! 8yrs!! You will have to explain to her that what she saw was 'play-acting' & nothing more. The earlier you realise that she is more Irish than Nigerian, the better. IMHO

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  6. yes Primmy what have you done? time still dey to change ha mind

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  7. Fool you people saying all u see on poddesk is horror stories u guys are stupid n ignorant that is why Nigeria is d way it is u want to hear lies always simplyglamorous is a fashion blog what do u expect to see there,hisssss. What is d difference between poddesk n lindaikeji n other blogs? Still u people still visit her blog daily u either take it or leave it nothing good happens in Naija that is how Rick Ross showed d true naija una wan kill am fake people.what has she said to warrant all this negativity.what is she writing that is different from other blogs. To come n her blog to lie that she writes only negative stories shows u are new to d blog Poddesk you are d best in dublin continue to do your thing my dear hater will only hate if una no like her blog pls go visit another blog hisssssss. And before you open ur month i dont know poddesk she is not my friend I only know about her blog,she reminds me of Linda ikeji

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    1. cheap use of insulting words....one word illiterate

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  8. I never new people can be so dumb,what has she written that is bad that she allowed her daughter watch home vídeo or that she explained the photo on her phone you now come here to say rubbish i always say it if you have nothing to say shut ur trap.she has fans and they like her page visit other blogs it's exactly d same thing that primmy reports that you find there every blog is different.if you don't like the blog stop visiting we her fans love her n her blog

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  9. Pls oh haters i just visited simply glamorous it is a fashion blog what do you expect to see there fashion, all blogs are different, ignorace is a deases
    Poddesk pls just tell your daughter good things about Naija she is still young she will change her opinion soon i am a huge fan

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    1. 'ignorace os a deases'...illiterate

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  10. Poddesk we as parents sometimes make such mistake the same thing happrened to my kids.but by time i took them to Nigeria their impression changed completely.she will be fine

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  11. What I love about you is your honesty and it will take you place,you are so real,get ready my dear haters will come but ignore them from reading the comments it just shows you are gradually building a strong followship just continue to be you my sister n believe me the sky is the limit for you.
    As for you daughter don't worry yourself she will be fine well done on your blog if anybody doesnt like it they should stop visiting period by the way you are so pretty

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  12. I have never commented on this blog even though i visit everyday pls pls who is coming here to compare simply glamourous with they are both different I find poddesk more interesting as for simply glamorous all she does is to showcase herself abeg anon 06:08 pls advice her to visit other fashion blog and see how its done. As for Edel do you even know poddesk to say you want to save her kids from her you did not read the post next make sure you read thoroughly before you post. And finally blogs are different

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    1. Rukkies oh na true my sister.lol. outfit of the day. this is what i wore to an official dinner. she wear bolero on top don turn to redesigning. since wen fasion become to dey take pcs of all the clothes wey one get.laugh wan tia my belle

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    2. Bad belle,abeg go die...That is pure envy,please she is going places cause the Lord has said so.Gooo and hug transformar you bloody hater...Hisses.

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  13. maybe na simplyglamorous send them.no mind them prim. na her husband wey dey take ishiro buy the cloth na im i blame. just remain prim and proper. take care gal

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  14. dubliners make una sufri oh. GBAM

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  15. hmmmmmm! y come on pod'sdesk to air ur bad bells? primmy, ride on! d sky is ur starting point! if u have issues with simplyglamorous blog, pls she has her own blog,go there and leave ur comment or concerns!!!!

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  16. Dublin n haters wetin poddesk write when bad.Jealousy na bad thing oh instead of giving her advice una dey compare photo Álbum (simply glamorus)to real blog (poddesk).pls if you don't like this blog there are loads of blog out there no be by force aunty edol abi na adel chief protector eku she oh bloody witch face your kids before pointing your crayfish finger at poddesk. Come hear again n run your mouth we are wetin to chew and chew you out madam busy body

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  17. funniest dublin blog ever,,we are talking about better blogging and journalism you are saying simply glamorous,dat mumu dat doesnt know more than frying pan earrings and double neckpieces,,willage gurl,who does that,is dat how it is done,who put hibiscud on there head in this age and time,only yoruba bloggers,,hilz...

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